You open your heart to include the other side. You want to give them the opportunity to live in peace, as you wish to live.
Each of us must ask ourselves, how large is my heart? How can I help my heart grow bigger and bigger everyday?
The practice of inclusiveness is based on the practice of understanding, compassion, and love. When you practice looking deeply to understand suffering, the nectar of compassion will arise naturally in your heart. Loving-kindness and compassion can continue to grouw indefinitely, and with enough understanding and loved you can embrace and accept everything and everyone.
If we truly want to live in peace, safety , and security, we must create an opportunity for those on the other side to live this way as well. If we know how to allow the other side into our heart, if we have that intention, we not only suffer less right away but we also increase our own chances of having peace and security.
When we’re motivated by the intention to practice inclusiveness, it becomes very easy to ask, “How can we best help you so that you can injoy safety? Please tells.” We express our concern for their safety, their need to live in peace, to rebuild their country, to strengthen their society. When you are able to approach a situation of conflict in this way, it can help transform the situation very quickly.
The basis for this transformation, the first thing that must happen, is the change withing your own heart. You open your heart to include the other side; you want to give them the opportunity to live in peaces, as you wish to live.
Societies and nations that are locked in conflict need to learn the practice of inclusiveness if they really want to find a way to live together in peace. Can our side accept the fact that the other side also needs a place to live and the safety and stability that can guarantee a peaceful and prosperous society? When we look deeply in the situation of those on the other side, we see that they are just like us – they also want only to have place where they can live in safety and peace. Understanding our own suffering and our own hopes can lead to understanding the suffering and hopes of the other group.
We know that if the other side does not have peace and safety, then it will not be possible for us to have peace and safety. That is the nature of interbeing. With this insight we’ll be able to open our hearts and embrace the other side.
Excerpt from “Peacful Action, Open Heart” by Thich Nhat Hanh